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Kids Don’t Tell You They Have Anxiety, They Say ‘My Stomach Hurts’ – Love and Marriage
“Mom, my stomach hurts.”
My daughter tells me this almost every night at the same time. She feels fine all day but when it’s bedtime and I’m turning down the lights, her stomach hurts.
Nighttime is when many kids anxiety intensifies. It’s dark, they’re alone, there are no distractions…
We have worked together to conquer her anxiety and she knows I will remind her that her stomach is actually just fine and it’s just her worry.
My son on the other hand, used to tell me his stomach hurt every morning before school. He had separation anxiety and didn’t want to be away from me.
Of course, instead of telling me that, he just said his stomach hurt.
Why do kids say their stomach hurts?
Well, it’s because their stomach actually hurts.
The stomach is home to the enteric nervous system and is even often called your second brain. Big nerves and anxiousness create a real sensation in the belly area.
It makes for quite a cycle because as the anxiety creates a stomach ache, a stomach ache causes even more anxiety and it continues on.
One study discovered that more than half, or 51 percent of people surveyed who experienced stomach pains as children ended up with some type of anxiety disorder sometime in their lives.
The most important thing to remember about kids that often complain of stomach aches (assuming you have ruled out any real stomach issues) is that they are not making it up. They are not lying or doing it for attention. They’re body is taking their anxiety and manifesting it right in the pit of their stomach.
Handling Kids Anxiety
There are many different approaches to conquering kids anxiety. I’m going to leave several resources here for you, but what seemed to have the biggest impact on my children was a simple $13 workbook from Amazon called,
More Kids Anxiety Resources
, these plush dolls where children are invited to write or draw their worries and place them in the Worry Eater’s mouth, so that the Worry Eater can hold onto them.
Do you worry, too? Check out the 21 Day Anxiety Challenge.
Liz is a just a mom trying to keep it real about how little she sleeps, how often she gets puked on and how much she loves them. You can find her here every day writing about real-mom moments.
Kids Don’t Tell You They Have Anxiety, They Say ‘My Stomach Hurts’ – Love and Marriage
“Mom, my stomach hurts.”
My daughter tells me this almost every night at the same time. She feels fine all day but when it’s bedtime and I’m turning down the lights, her stomach hurts.
Nighttime is when many kids anxiety intensifies. It’s dark, they’re alone, there are no distractions…
We have worked together to conquer her anxiety and she knows I will remind her that her stomach is actually just fine and it’s just her worry.
My son on the other hand, used to tell me his stomach hurt every morning before school. He had separation anxiety and didn’t want to be away from me.
Of course, instead of telling me that, he just said his stomach hurt.
Why do kids say their stomach hurts?
Well, it’s because their stomach actually hurts.
The stomach is home to the enteric nervous system and is even often called your second brain. Big nerves and anxiousness create a real sensation in the belly area.
It makes for quite a cycle because as the anxiety creates a stomach ache, a stomach ache causes even more anxiety and it continues on.
One study discovered that more than half, or 51 percent of people surveyed who experienced stomach pains as children ended up with some type of anxiety disorder sometime in their lives.
The most important thing to remember about kids that often complain of stomach aches (assuming you have ruled out any real stomach issues) is that they are not making it up. They are not lying or doing it for attention. They’re body is taking their anxiety and manifesting it right in the pit of their stomach.
Handling Kids Anxiety
There are many different approaches to conquering kids anxiety. I’m going to leave several resources here for you, but what seemed to have the biggest impact on my children was a simple $13 workbook from Amazon called,
More Kids Anxiety Resources
, these plush dolls where children are invited to write or draw their worries and place them in the Worry Eater’s mouth, so that the Worry Eater can hold onto them.
Liz is a just a mom trying to keep it real about how little she sleeps, how often she gets puked on and how much she loves them. You can find her here every day writing about real-mom moments.
I’m a Mean Mom and I Don’t Care – Love and Marriage
I make them follow rules.
I punish them when they don’t.
I make them to do chores.
Even when they’re tired.
I enforce an early bed time.
I push them to do hard things.
I take them to piano and baseball and soccer even when they don’t feel like going.
I don’t let them eat buckets of candy.
I make them read their books.
And study for their spelling tests.
I make you wear your bike helmet even though you hate it.
I won’t let you drink soda.
I won’t let you watch that rated R movie.
I don’t give them everything they want.
I may not always be popular. I may not always make the decision you want me to or the one you think is right.
But I’ll love you to pieces. I’ll protect you. I’ll care for you. I’ll fight for you. I’ll try my best to give you the best life imaginable.
And sometimes by doing that, I have to be what you think is “mean”.
Pregnant Jana Kramer’s Baby ‘Has Been a Savior’ for Her Marriage
With child No. 2 on the way, Jana Kramer says this rainbow baby has been a “savior” in helping her and husband Mike Caussin work on their marriage.
Seven months after the couple welcomed their daughter Jolie Rae, now 2½, Caussin and Kramer separated in 2016 after the former NFL tight end admitted he’d cheated on his wife. He later sought treatment at a rehabilitation facility.
Now two years past Caussin’s infidelity, the couple continues to work on their marriage — and the “Dammit” singer, 34, says that expecting their baby boy has brought the two closer together.
“Babies and having other kids don’t save a marriage but for us, this baby truly has been a savior for us in a way that we’ve really done our work and gotten dirty,” Kramer told PEOPLE at the Carter’s and OshKosh B’gosh fall fashion event in New York City on Tuesday.
She adds, “We’re bringing a child into this world [so] we have to be there for each other and continue to do our own recovery work for him and me and be in a place where we’re bringing [our son] into the best environment possible.”
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Jana Kramer
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How Jana Kramer and Mike Caussin Overcame Infidelity and Multiple Miscarriages to Be Ready for Their Rainbow Baby
Now Kramer and Caussin, 31, are “pumped” about having a baby boy together and are beginning to prepare for their second child, the singer tells PEOPLE.
She also says that Caussin’s “infidelity” is “always going to be there” and that “it’s been a lot of work” for her to overcome what happened. However, the mom-to-be explains that as they continue to build their family, it’s now about “managing [the work] together.”
Jana Kramer and family
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The star has been candid before about discussing her rocky relationship with Caussin on her podcast, , and continues to share advice for those who may be going through similar obstacles in their own relationships.
“Just give it time, and two people have to work. If one person is doing the work and the other one isn’t, then it most likely isn’t going to work,” Kramer tells PEOPLE.
“If two people are doing the work then there could be a great silver lining and that’s what we’re seeing. [Mike], for the longest time, wasn’t putting in the work, but now when two people actually truly come together and put in the work, then it’s a huge change,” she adds.
Jolie Caussin
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Kramer has had a total of five losses, including three miscarriages and two chemical pregnancies, before she shared the news with PEOPLE in June that she was pregnant with her rainbow baby.
She tells PEOPLE now, “I was so scared to share my miscarriage but for me, selfishly, it was great because so many women have had miscarriages. Multiple women were like, ‘I have,’ and it’s just very nice to have an army of women out there that are supporting other women.”
“It’s definitely been a really hard journey,” she continues. “I’m blessed to be pregnant now and there are plenty of women who are still waiting on their rainbow baby. I’m happy that my rainbow baby is on the way but I’m also really cautious too. I don’t want to jinx anything.”
16 Ways I Blew My Marriage
Do you know what blows big time?
The other night I was sitting with my family, most of whom are very successfully married. We were going in a circle giving our best marriage advice to my little sister on the eve of her wedding. It’s somewhat of a family tradition.
But that’s not what blows. What really blows is that I realized I don’t have any good marriage advice to give. After all, I’ve never had a successful marriage out of the two marriages I did have.
And so, when it was my turn, I just made a joke about divorce and how you should always remember why you loved your spouse when you first met her so that when times get tough, you can find someone new that is just like she was.
There were a couple courtesy giggles, but overall my humor wasn’t welcome in such a beautifully building ring of profundity.
They finished round one, and for some reason started into another round. And that’s when I realized. Hey. I don’t have marriage advice to give, but I have plenty of “keep your marriage from ending” advice (two equivocally different things), and that might be almost as good.
It eventually came to me again, and what I said would have been such great advice if I were a tenth as good at saying things as I was at writing them.
And so, that night, I sat down and wrote out my “advice list” for my little sister. You know… things I wish I would have known or done differently so that I didn’t end up divorced (twice). After writing it, I thought maybe I’d share it with all of you, too.
I call it my “Ways I Blew My Marriage” list. Also, for the list’s sake, I am just going to refer to “her” instead of “them” even though they almost all were true in both marriages.
1. DON’T STOP HOLDING HER HAND.
When I first dated the woman I ended up marrying, I always held her hand. In the car. While walking. At meals. At movies. It didn’t matter where. Over time, I stopped. I made up excuses like my hand was too hot or it made me sweat or I wasn’t comfortable with it in public. Truth was, I stopped holding hands because I stopped wanting to put in the effort to be close to my wife. No other reason.
IF I HAD IT TO DO OVER: I’d hold her hand in the car. I’d hold her hand on a star. I’d hold her hand in a box. I’d hold her hand with a fox. And I’d hold her hand everywhere else, too, even when we didn’t particularly like each other for the moment.
BONUS! When you hold hands in the winter, they don’t get cold. True story.
2. DON’T STOP TRYING TO BE ATTRACTIVE.
Obviously when I was working to woo her, I would do myself up as attractively as I possibly could every time I saw her. I kept perfectly groomed. I always smelled good. I held in my farts until she wasn’t around. For some reason, marriage made me feel like I could stop doing all that. I would get all properly groomed, smelling good, and dressed up any time we went out somewhere or I went out by myself, but I rarely, if ever, cared about making myself attractive just for her.
IF I HAD IT TO DO OVER: I’d try and put my best foot forward throughout our entire marriage. I’d wait to fart until I was in the bathroom whenever possible. I’d make myself desirable so that she would desire me.
BONUS! When you trim your man hair, guess what. She returns the favor.
3. DON’T ALWAYS POINT OUT HER WEAKNESSES.
For some reason, somewhere along the way, I always ended up feeling like it was my place to tell her where she was weak and where she could do better. I sure as heck didn’t do that while we were dating. No, when I dated her I only built her up, only told her how amazing she was, and easily looked past all of her flaws. After we got married though, she sometimes couldn’t even cook eggs without me telling her how she might be able to improve.
IF I HAD IT TO DO OVER: I wouldn’t say a damned thing about anything that I thought could use improvement. I’ve learned since my marriage ended that there is more than one right way to do most things, and that the imperfections of others are too beautiful to try and change.
BONUS! When you tell her what she’s doing right, she’ll tell you what you’re doing right. And she’ll also tell her friends. And her family. And the dentist. And even strangers on the street.
4. DON’T STOP COOKING FOR HER.
I knew how to woo a girl, for sure. And the ticket was usually a night in, cooking a nice meal and having a romantic evening. So why is it then, that I didn’t do that for her after we got married? Sure, I’d throw some canned soup in the microwave or fry up some chimichangas once in a while, but I rarely if ever went out of my way to sweep her off her feet after we were married by steaming crab legs, or making fancy pasta, or setting up a candlelit table.
IF I HAD IT TO DO OVER: I’d make it a priority to cook for her, and only her, something awesome at least every month. And I’d remember that meat in a can is never awesome.
BONUS! Candlelit dinners often lead to candlelit bow chica bow-wow.
5. DON’T YELL AT YOUR SPOUSE.
I’m not talking about the angry kind of yelling. I’m talking about the lazy kind of yelling. The kind of yelling you do when you don’t want to get up from your television show or you don’t want to go ALL THE WAY UPSTAIRS to ask her if she’s seen your keys. It really doesn’t take that much effort to go find her, and yelling (by nature) sounds demanding and authoritative.
IF I HAD IT TO DO OVER: I’d try to go find her anytime I needed something or wanted to know something, and I’d have both gratitude and manners when I did. I always hated when she would yell to me, so why did I always feel it was okay to yell to her?
BONUS! Sometimes you catch her doing something cute that you would have missed otherwise.
6. DON’T CALL NAMES.
I always felt I was the king of not calling names, but I wasn’t. I may not have called her stupid, or idiot, or any of the other names she’d sometimes call me, but I would tell her she was stubborn, or that she was impossible, or that she was so hard to deal with. Names are names, and calling them will drive bigger wedges in communication than just about anything else.
IF I HAD IT TO DO OVER: Any time it got to the point that I wanted to call names, I’d call a time-out and come back to it later. Or better yet, I’d call her names, but they’d be names like “super sexy” or “hotness.” Even in the heat of the moment.
BONUS! She’ll call you names in better places. Like the bedroom.
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